How to word your wedding invitations
Are you worried about how to word your wedding invitations correctly? Unsure on where to put your names, who goes first, what’s the etiquette?
Well, you’ve come to the right blog. Here is a simple look at how you can word your invites to create the right tone for your wedding, making sure to include all the right elements.
This is an optional element to your design, which can be carried through to your wax stamps, stickers, floor decals, napkins and more. It is a symbol of your unity and is typically the first initials of the couples first names.
Traditionally, the parents of the bride organised the wedding to ‘give away’ their daughter. So invitations would be written and sent out by the brides parents. Of course, back in those days, the family was known through the father, so an example of this could be;
Mr & Mrs David Henry Jones request the pleasure of your company at the wedding of their daughter ‘Georgia Jones’ to ‘Matthew Ross’.
Nowadays, weddings are much less of a formal arrangement, and putting the main hosts of the wedding at the top is more appropriate. This could be both sets of parents, the couple themselves or just the one set of parents.
A few examples could be;
Brides Parents (Together)
- Mr David Jones and Mrs Susan Jones…
- Mr and Mrs David Jones…
- Mr and Mrs Jones…
Brides parents (Divorced)
Mr David Jones
Mrs Susan Welsh
(seperate lines should be used for non married host.
When both sets of parents are hosting, you would put the brides parents first (married or divorced) and then the grooms parents next.
Mr and Mrs Henry Jones
Mr and Mrs Lenny Ross
Mr and Mrs Henry Ross
Mrs Susan Welsh
Mr and Mrs Lenny Ross
This is an example of where you have a step parent hosting too. This can get a little wordy, so a nice way to this could be, ‘together with their families…’ This can also be great when a number of people are contributing to the wedding.
When you have a deceased person you would like to honour, the adding ‘late’ to the beginning of their name is appropriate. ‘Mr Henry Jones and the late Susan Jones..”
When the couple host, this line is left out.
This is a line where you request your guests presence. You can be formal, casual or even quirky here. This sets the tone for the wedding, and is your chance to add some personality if you want.
- Request the honour of your company at their wedding (more formal and religious)
- Request the pleasure of your company at their wedding
- Invite you to join them as they wed
- Invite you to their wedding
- Invite you to join in the festivities of their wedding
- Invite you to celebrate their wedding
- Would love you to join them
- joyfully invite you to their wedding….
This can be a sticky subject for couples, as sometimes the groom wants to go first, or the bride wants to keep to tradition. There is no right or wrong way, it simply is whatever feels right to you as a couple. But here are a few ideas,
For traditional invitations where the bride’s parents are listed, the brides name can go first. It can be written in full or with her first and middle name leaving out the last name. Or it can be first and last name. The groom then comes second, with his full name. You can then follow this with ‘son of Mr and Mrs Lenny Ross’
For same sex couples, you would list the names in alphabetical order, or in an order of who’s parents were listed at the top (same as above). You can choose to use your whole names or just first and last names.
For a more casual feel you can skip all the formalities and just list your first names.
This is where you pop down all the details for you wedding, such as date, time and location.
You can write it in numerals or words. Typically, more formal invitations write everything out in word form, with the day and date being in capitals and the year in lower case. You would write the time out like this too.
If you prefer numerals, this is again, totally fine, but be aware that those living in America read numeral dates differently to those in the UK and Australia.
- SATURDAY, TWENTIETH OF MARCH, Two Thousand and Fifteen
- 20th March 2015
- THREE O’CLOCK IN THE AFTERNOON
- 3 O’Clock
- HALF PAST THREE IN THE AFTERNOON
Location of the wedding is written next, as the venue, town and then state. There is no need to pop the full address of the venue down, such as the street number and postcode. This looks messy. Keep it simple, your guests will be able to work with this information. If its a private residence, you can pop the street number and name down though.
This is where you can have a bit of fun, or keep it simple. This sets the tone for the rest of the wedding and tells guests what they can expect, such as light refreshments, a sit down meal or dancing, etc.
- Reception to follow (formal)
- Dinner and drinks to follow
- Dinner, drinks and dancing to follow
- Celebrations to follow
- Feasting and fun to follow
- Dinner, drinks and dad dancing to follow
- Great food and bad dancing…
- An evening of celebrations to follow
- Dinner, dancing and happily ever after to follow..
A few extras;
A few extra things you may consider on your invite are
- Dress code, whether formal, cocktail, black tie or casual
- Wedding website
- RSVP details if you are not having an rsvp. So either email, website or phone numbers.
It is essential that you are very clear about who exactly is invited. This way no one gets confused and you don’t end up a meal and chair short for your guests! Typical ways to include this are addressing the invitations to the guests, such as ‘Mr and Mrs David Jones request the pleasure of your company, Bill and Jan Smith, as they celebrate the wedding of their daughter….’
Other ways are popping their names on the RSVP cards, or addressing the envelopes out to each guest. You could also consider having a note on your info card about who is invites, such as children or no children.
Tie in the theme
When choosing your wedding invitations its also a good idea to add elements of the theme of your wedding. For example if you are having a wedding somewhere tropical, having relaxed wording and a few tropical vibes may be fun.
Other than the above, you simply need to have a think about what you want people to know about your wedding. And don’t rush! Once they have been sent its much harder to update your guests.
Need to know how to word your RSVP cards? See here
For more information on your wedding invitations, or to start designing some with me today, send me a message and we can get chatting. Can’t wait, and happy planning!!